Moving Inspiration: Sixty and Single in Seattle

I have big plans for the new year including a weekly "schedule" of posts. Every Monday I'll write about something or someone awesome in the world. If you've got something you'd like me to profile, please let me know in the comments or email me!

This month I'm exploring the adventure of moving -- it is terrifying, it is exhilarating, it is annoying and it is exhausting.

It takes courage to uproot yourself from where you've been planted and move. It takes gumption to start all over, especially in a big city.

Mary Davies has courage and gumption. At the age of 60, as a divorced single woman, she moved to Seattle, WA.

If she can do it, so can you!

I very much enjoy reading Mary's uplifting and articulate (she is a professional writer) blog.

Sometimes I get those external social signals which say: You're getting kind of old to be single. Maybe you should get married while you still have the chance. And then I start to think that maybe being single is only fun when you're young, and attractive, and can turn the heads of horny frat boys.

But Mary's blog reminds me that you can embrace singleness at any age and that you can find joy and freedom and adventure and beauty in single life no matter what. Being single is a big adventure and there is no reason to stop growing or get set in your ways if those ways don't suit you!

Read Sixty and Single in Seattle and tell me what you think!

Singlution Clarified

 I would like to clarify one thing: 

I do not believe that being single is better than being coupled any more than I think being coupled is better than being single. Honestly, I think that whether a person is (at the moment) single or coupled has a lot to do with fate (or god/goddess/universe/whatever you're into).

Yes, there are ways you can put yourself out there to meet more eligible bachelors/bachelorettes and yes, you can always ask for a divorce or be the one to end the relationship. But meeting a person whom you really connect with and who you end up in a serious relationship with is kinda a toss up. There isn't a science to it and it affects everyone in different ways at different times. Short people get married just as often as tall people and mean people get married just as often as nice folks. Relationships are one universal thing which isn't about money or beauty or even kindness. 

I am not a person who advocates for ALWAYS being single. And I have not committed to a single life forever and ever. But I do advocate for committing to the life you're in--especially if you're single. Committing to being single (while you are single) is so much different than committing to being single forever. I expect that one day I will be coupled and one day after that I will eventually be married. Committing to being single does not exclude the possibility of a relationship. In fact, I feel that by committing to being single, I will be (and have) a better mate when that time comes.

I see being single as a wonderful wonderful opportunity (which not everyone has: some people couple before they've even really had an adult single life) to grown and develop and nurture myself and to really fully enjoy life on my own terms and see all the things which I have to be grateful for. 

That is what this blog is all about.