What is the Singlution?
The singlution is a fledgling movement, started right here, which supports single people in living full and satisfying lives just the way they are. It celebrates single living and offers hope and community to people who struggle with single life.
The Singlutionary is actually a who. Singlutionary refers to both the author of this blog (kinda like a self-appointed revolutionary for single people) and it also refers to anyone who wants to live life as a satisfied single and feels really brave doing it or anyone who totally gets what this blog is all about and wants to partake in the singlution!
What IS this blog about?
Good question. Its about several things: its about me and my experiences, its about being a solid/satisfed/non-searching single and its also about the trials of being single and how best to overcome them or how I overcame them, at least (I make no guarantees).
What made you decide to write this blog?
I have been single for almost ALL of my adult life (and before that also). Not just single-as-in-not-married but single-as-in-not-even-a-successful-relationship-in-sight. So why then, was I the recipient of everyone's midnight calls seeking advice about marriage or engagement or lack of engagement or potential date or lack thereof? I have no bloody clue. What I do know is that I've done all the wrong things a single person can do and I FINALLY figured out how I can live a happy satisfying search-free life just where I am. And I want to share that because the path to here was pretty lonely and very frustrating.
There is little community/support for single people that isn't about hooking up. This blog is an attempt to provide a healthy forum for single people to live and breathe and grow and communicate.
Got a Question for the Singlutionary?
Post it as a comment or email me!
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"Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
Soooo, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of sh*t!"
"I have been single for almost ALL of my adult life. . . So why then, was I the recipient of everyone's midnight calls seeking advice about marriage or engagement or lack of engagement or potential date or lack thereof?" I don't know either! But it happens to me too!! Though I never really realized the irony of it 'til I read your post. = ) --CC at Onely
Wow, I'm a little slow on the uptake, but I love this! I too, have been single for my entire adult life (and not just unmarried, as in, no relationships) and before that as well, and I too am the recipient of midnight phone calls from people frantic about their boyfriends/fiances/husbands. I'm now looking forward to reading everything you have written.
The Spartan: Phew! Good luck reading everything I've ever written and thanks for joining the discussions. I hope you'll continue to comment!
To a large measure i am a shy introvert 20 year old chap from Australia. To a large measure i feel as if i am in somewhat of a mire given the current state of things. Not to denegrate anyone past and or present but it seems almost icomprehensable as i see all to often the sleezy guys use "false charm" to trap girls into thinking they really care about them. When in truth all they want is action. (make of that what you will).
Im not saying by any measure that i am a saint but i know many people who are close to it and are in a far more stagnate situation and are still looking for comforate in there later years.
When all is said and done i have ceased to rationalise the detrimental situation of what i have become painfully accustom to and have decided a persuit to "redefine personal boundaries" in the hope that i can focus on what i have rather than what i feel i lack.
My naturally shy nature has led me to a point in my life where i no longer feel the pain of solitude as a new objectivity in personal goal setting is recalculated.
Needless to say that as i turn 21 this coming month i am still a virgin without much hope of altering this "celibate" outcome but in all truth there is far more to life than covertly using women as sex object for intentional alterior motives as i see far too often in this current age in which we exist
To a large measure i am a shy introvert 20 year old chap from Australia. To a large measure i feel as if i am in somewhat of a mire given the current state of things. Not to denegrate anyone past and or present but it seems almost icomprehensable as i see all to often the sleezy guys use "false charm" to trap girls into thinking they really care about them. When in truth all they want is action. (make of that what you will).
Im not saying by any measure that i am a saint but i know many people who are close to it and are in a far more stagnate situation and are still looking for comforate in there later years.
When all is said and done i have ceased to rationalise the detrimental situation of what i have become painfully accustom to and have decided a persuit to "redefine personal boundaries" in the hope that i can focus on what i have rather than what i feel i lack.
My naturally shy nature has led me to a point in my life where i no longer feel the pain of solitude as a new objectivity in personal goal setting is recalculated.
Needless to say that as i turn 21 this coming month i am still a virgin without much hope of altering this "celibate" outcome but in all truth there is far more to life than covertly using women as sex object for intentional alterior motives as i see far too often in this current age in which we exist
To a large measure i am a shy introvert 20 year old chap from Australia. To a large measure i feel as if i am in somewhat of a mire given the current state of things. Not to denegrate anyone past and or present but it seems almost icomprehensable as i see all to often the sleezy guys use "false charm" to trap girls into thinking they really care about them. When in truth all they want is action. (make of that what you will).
Im not saying by any measure that i am a saint but i know many people who are close to it and are in a far more stagnate situation and are still looking for comforate in there later years.
When all is said and done i have ceased to rationalise the detrimental situation of what i have become painfully accustom to and have decided a persuit to "redefine personal boundaries" in the hope that i can focus on what i have rather than what i feel i lack.
My naturally shy nature has led me to a point in my life where i no longer feel the pain of solitude as a new objectivity in personal goal setting is recalculated.
Needless to say that as i turn 21 this coming month i am still a virgin without much hope of altering this "celibate" outcome but in all truth there is far more to life than covertly using women as sex object for intentional alterior motives as i see far too often in this current age in which we exist
Hi! I stumbled upon your site, and I think it's really interesting (seeing as I am single and not-looking either). I'm at the age where people around me are starting to get married which I think is a bit nuts seeing as how far I am from that. I'm looking forward to exploring your site more!
(P.S. Just one little thing -- the white on black text is killing my eyes! I'd really like to read more, but I find after a few minutes my eyes feel really strained)
MissMentor
Hi LisaKN:
Welcome to the site! I am glad you've found it! I don't know if I can change the color combo and keep the rest of the template but I'll look into it!
Hi there...
I too stumbled onto this site...and seeing that I'm in my 30's and single... I immediately could relate to what you were saying...especially on getting phone calls from married friends with marriage woes..... hahaha... its quite a conundrum this one..... and best of all... I have friends who constantly complain bout their marriages then suddenly turn to me and go like " hey when r u getting married" ??? heheheeh....go figure...
anyways... look forward to reading more of your blog entries... :)
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