tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post7606800772212884584..comments2023-10-29T03:21:02.475-05:00Comments on Singlutionary: My Singlutionary AdmirationThe Singlutionaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11199194725578216599noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-43527897783694313062009-08-08T00:01:04.436-05:002009-08-08T00:01:04.436-05:00Iol: Thank you! Yes, our friends should build us u...Iol: Thank you! Yes, our friends should build us up just as we build them up and it should all be natural.<br /><br />Bobby: You are awesome! I admire you too. You are always standing up for people, offering support. Your entire blog is about helping people to make their relationships better and to better their relationship with themselves. Thank you for standing up for folks with your words and with your physical presence. It is good to know that there are grown up men out there!The Singlutionaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199194725578216599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-68506109121377487202009-08-06T16:59:37.584-05:002009-08-06T16:59:37.584-05:00You have to be comfortable with yourself in all as...You have to be comfortable with yourself in all aspects. I learned this the hard way myself when I was a lad. I can tell you this, I absolutely admire you through the words you so eloquently portray here at your blog! You're intelligent, cheery, fun and your posts are well thought out and interesting. They also inspire. What's not to admire?<br /><br />As to the lack of concern that people have sometimes in jumping in to another human beings defense, well it's not only disgusting, but should be against the law! I've had my butt well beaten many times in aiding those who had no defense (I grew up at a rough time in NYC). I don't regret any of it because it was the right thing to do and always will be.<br /><br />It took me many years to become comfortable with myself, but I finally realized that I'm in charge of my life and the direction I want it to go. It seems that you're going down that same path too-well done and more power to you!<br /><br />You deserve good things in life, go get 'em! :)bobbyboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15941342429838457419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-60875362185693240412009-08-05T09:11:47.244-05:002009-08-05T09:11:47.244-05:00Once again, another great thought :-)
But if you ...Once again, another great thought :-)<br /><br />But if you have a think about it, isn't this what friends are for? Shouldn't friends treat you the same way; shouldn't we have friends that you can feel the same way with when you talk to them as you feel when you talk to these other people?<br /><br />Just a thought .... <br /><br />iol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-86874308101363697092009-08-04T23:13:10.848-05:002009-08-04T23:13:10.848-05:00Clever Elsie: Thank you for making so many great p...Clever Elsie: Thank you for making so many great points. It is nice to finally be able to relax into myself and enjoy the reward of simply being me. I agree that the negative experiences I cited were definitely NOT admiration in the real sense of the word but I was certainly schooled by life from an early age that being a small, young female made me a target for ickyness. I don't know why the boys and men in my hometown were to unwilling to assist me. As I gain distance and perspective from the situation, I think it is in some part the insular conformity of small-town-thinking, in some part their own youth and immaturity and in some part racism. When I told my then-pseudo-boyfriend about the bear hugging man, he was more concerned about the race of that individual than my well being. I come from a town where you're either white or your mexican. I'm neither but could pass for either. So, I think that on some level, it was OK that I was being attacked because it was merely a dispute amongst the "lower classes".<br /><br />Courtney! Thank you for reading! Please keep commenting, I'd love to hear more about you and your workspace!<br /><br />Welsh Girl: Yes, I do know to shout fire. And I would do it now after all of that. At the time, I do not think I shouted "help" until I was in my parent's driveway. I couldn't find any words. I just screamed as loud and long as I could. I don't know what the whole "fire" thing says about human nature either. Not a positive note for humanity.<br /><br />Special K: Thank you so much! I admire you too! And I especially admire your willingness to move to a far away land and to cut off all your hair and run marathons or whatever is next on your list!The Singlutionaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199194725578216599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-38059105719478717812009-08-04T13:34:40.650-05:002009-08-04T13:34:40.650-05:00I have so much to say (surprise, surprise!) but I ...I have so much to say (surprise, surprise!) but I guess what matters most is: what you are (plump, too skinny, an apartment owner, a single gal) is not ever as crucial as who you are (thoughtful, intelligent...). <br />I admire you. Completely. Hands Down. <br />Thanks for entering my giveaway!Special Khttp://thespecialktreatment.wordpress.com/2009/08/03/allow-yourself/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-41557851802588463572009-08-04T11:17:43.308-05:002009-08-04T11:17:43.308-05:00Life has been eventful for you up to now so I love...Life has been eventful for you up to now so I love that things are finally falling into place. Hurrah. The posse of sane admirers sound lovely - real, sane, interesting people who want to talk to you should always be encouraged! I'm rather horrified by the non reaction of your neighbourhood to bear hugging crazy people. Did you know that the advice now is to shout 'fire' if you want people to come to your aid. Apparently it is the only thing that works without fail. That says something about human nature, I'm just not sure what.Welsh Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12892102110682697495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-55434912770510040332009-08-04T05:31:11.885-05:002009-08-04T05:31:11.885-05:00I love your blog! It's never boring, that'...I love your blog! It's never boring, that's for sure.<br /><br />I feel as though I'm right on the verge of having a workspace that compliments me; you are constantly giving me little sneak peaks at what I really hope is my near future!<br /><br />Please keep writing :DCourtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2779287853088298189.post-16516433704814043912009-08-04T00:44:44.504-05:002009-08-04T00:44:44.504-05:00This post invites comment on so many things--the s...This post invites comment on so many things--the sometimes blurry line between flirtation and harassment, sexual objectification, violence against women, body image issues, and the role of poor self-esteem in abusive relations. I think what sticks with and disturbs me the most is the <i>tolerance</i> of abuse so evident in the insouciant reactions of the men around you! Their refusal to acknowledge or assist you makes them complicit in that abuse. And I really do think that the incidents you're describing are abuse, not admiration.<br /><br />Girls and women shouldn't have to be ashamed or afraid of ridicule if they alert someone to abuse. They also shouldn't have to worry that they'll be harassed for looking healthy and attractive. Yet the tragedy of our society is that even as it preaches equality, it shrugs its shoulders at the statistic that one in four women will be sexually assaulted at some point in her life. <br /><br />It's really encouraging to know that these frightening encounters haven't stopped you from becoming the independent single you are today. While anyone can become a target of an abuser, it's true that a healthy sense of self-esteem sends out a message that you will actively resist anyone who oversteps your boundaries. <br /><br />When you've had a number of run-ins with abusers, it can be hard to distinguish positive attention from threatening attention. It's really great to hear that you're experiencing positive attention now and learning how to enjoy it! Everyone likes to know they're valued and appreciated, and there's nothing wrong with that.Clever Elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.com